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5 Flirting Tips for Men - Proper Techniques for Engaging Women

Flirting should be fun and rewarding. Here we'll explore 5 ways to help you flirt with women and give you some tips on how to use each technique effectively. Whether you're a beginner or an experienced flirt, this article has something for everyone!


Complimenting a woman is a great way to show your interest, especially if you're a newbie and you don't talk to a lot of women. Make sure to be sincere and specific in your compliments. Focus on something you genuinely like about her, such as her style, something that you notice about her in the moment or just a plain old fashioned line such as "hey, I thought you looked cute and wanted to meet you real quick, what's your name ?"

A simple line like that will help you demonstrate your intent and start the conversation positively. Remember to speak with confidence, smile and think positively !

Not all women will be open to talking to you, however this is an easy way to start building your confidence with women.


I already mentioned smiling above and that cannot be understated. The amount of men that approach women with this 'cool guy' bravado is astounding. Stop trying to be the coolest guy in the world. You're probably not and neither am I. So don't take yourself too seriously. Smile when you talk to her, this will help a woman relax and see that you have positive intentions when you approach her. Better yet, have a little smirk when you compliment her and tell her a little bit about yourself.

Secondly, Make Eye Contact ! Making eye contact is an important part of flirting. Show her that you're interested by locking eyes and keeping eye contact for a few moments. This works really well because it also demonstrates your confidence. People with low self esteem have a problem with holding eye contact and tend to look down / away, frequently during conversations. If you have this problem, consciously break that habit and maintain eye contact throughout the conversation.


The problem that most men have is that they ask either the wrong questions OR they ask too many questions consecutively. However asking questions is an essential element of getting to know someone and it opens up the potential for flirting that is not based on canned lines.

For example, let's say that you guys are on the topic of travelling and you ask "If you could travel and visit 3 places right now, where would you go ?" and she says "Thailand, Ibiza and Krakow", your follow up playful tease can be based on her answer. Here is an example, "So Thailand for the exotic break away from daily life, Ibiza for the party, I see you have a little troublemaker behind the innocent smile, and Krakow for the architecture and a bit of peace before the next adventure, you're like a rollercoaster".

You can use the above technique after any open ended question that you use. The key here is to also add your take on the question after her response and to use this technique sporadically in unison with the other techniques on this list.

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Finding similarities will help you build a connection. Most people that get into romantic relationships that last, have commonalities. This could be a hobby, a certain belief, a place you've both visited or something as simple as the same favourite food, movie or tv show.

As the conversation develops and you learn more about her through asking questions, you are going to potentially find things that you both have in common. When you do, talk about those commonalities as they will give you the opportunity to bond.


Touching is an important part of flirting. Do it subtly, such as placing your hand on her arm or shoulder when you laugh. Make sure she's comfortable with the level of contact before getting too physical.

A good rule of thumb is to only begin touching her shoulder or arm once you're in a free flowing conversation in which she smiles and engages i.e. asks you personal questions and laughs at your jokes.

Below are some great body language tips that will also help you with the above techniques.

Body language can be a powerful tool when it comes to flirting with women. Here are a few tips to help you use body language effectively:

  1. Maintain good eye contact. This shows confidence and interest.

  2. Smile and use facial expressions to convey positive emotions.

  3. Keep your body open and facing towards her.

  4. Use touch, such as a light touch on the arm or shoulder, to indicate interest.

  5. Lean in slightly when the other person is speaking to show that you're paying attention.

It's important to remember that every person is different and may respond differently to certain forms of body language. It's also important to be mindful of personal boundaries and always respect the other person's feelings and actions.

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