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How to Ask Her Out out on a Date Over Text and Get a Yes EVERY TIME !

Getting a girl’s number can be a nerve-wracking experience. You don’t want to come off too strong, but you also don’t want to come off too casual or disinterested. Texting a girl who gave you her number can be an even more intimidating task. After all, you want to make a good impression and stay in her mind. Here are some tips to help you set up a date over text !


Start with a simple greeting. This could be as straightforward as a “Hello it's Tom” or “Hey, nice meeting you today, it's Tom ” or you could opt for a more creative greeting such as “Hey Anna, Tom here. Did not expect to meet a dancer today! What are you up to?”. To be more creative, you should use the information that she has given you when you talked to her, in your opening text. This makes the text more enticing for her to answer. No matter what you choose, keeping it simple and light will help break the ice and get the conversation going.

Once you send the text, wait for her response. If she does not respond within a couple of hours, DO NOT MESSAGE AGAIN ! This is a rookie mistake and it will make you look desperate. Remember to give her time to respond, but if she doesn't, simply move on. A woman who is interested in seeing you will respond.

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After you get a response, keep up the positive vibe that scored you the number in the first place. Reference something interesting that she has told you and ask an open-ended question about it. Asking a question will show her that you’re interested in getting to know her, and an open-ended question allows her to provide more than just a yes or no answer.


Once she has answered your question, respond with something relevant. You could ask a follow-up question or provide your own answer. For example, if she tells you her favourite food, you could tell her about a place you love that serves that food. This will help you 'seed the close' i.e. ask her out on a date (we will come to that a little later).

Remember that the key to good text game is to maintain a good vibe. So avoid closed-ended questions and follow the above example to keep the conversation moving. Once you establish the conversation with a few texts and she is engaged in the conversation, begin to close.


After getting a woman's number, you shouldn't linger on texting for too long, if you do, she will loose interest in you. You need to ask her out when things are going well over text.

Use the following structure to ask her out on a date:

  1. Text 1 - "I have an interesting idea" (wait for her response)

  2. Text 2 - "You got any plans Friday / Saturday" - provide 2 days as she may be busy on one of them.

  3. Text 3 - "Well, if you're feeling adventurous I know this great place on (INSERT LOCATION), would love to take you, how about Saturday 7pm?"

  4. Text 4 - "Great, here's the address, I'll see you there"

You can also suggest picking her up if you have a car and that adds an extra level of charm and confidence to Text 4.

This is a simple structure that works like a charm when you want to ask a girl out on a date. By following these simple tips, you’ll be sure to make a great impression, keep the conversation going and confidently ask her out on a date at the right moment.

Just remember to be yourself, be respectful, and keep the conversation light and positive. Good luck!



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